It’s hard to look at life the same way again, even though I know I should be happy.

12/02/2025

It might sound a bit strange since I’m in my 30s, have a decent job, a house, a wonderful wife, and two beautiful kids, but I can’t help but get lost in memories of my childhood.

I was listening to the song “What’s Up” by 4 Non Blondes that randomly played, one that used to be my favourite when I was younger, and it immediately took me back to those carefree times. I remember those long school holidays, waking up to the sound of birds outside, and lying in bed for what felt like forever, too excited to get up. We’d spend our days with friends flying kites, running around, and just doing whatever we could. Then, we'd return home to delicious meals, sitting together as a family. There are so many other exciting memories that I can’t possibly list here.

I think back to my birthdays, rushing to open presents and eagerly waiting for my friends to come over to celebrate. I’d even lie about my age to seem more grown-up. The day I finally got a bicycle—after begging for so long—was such a big moment, especially since my parents had said "no more pets" (I had loved having many pets), but they made an exception for the bike.

I definitely had good old days, filled with exciting chapters and stories. I’ve travelled to many places, all around Nepal, and I must say, I’ve seen about 40% of India on various occasions for work, study, and travel. I have a treasure trove of memories from my school days in Darjeeling and Delhi (I still remember those scorching hot days in Delhi when temperatures surpassed 47°C, and the time our cooler broke!).

After reflecting on all of this, I picked up my guitar and sang some of the songs I loved as a kid, the ones that made me dream of becoming a good musician. Playing those familiar tunes again, in a new place, brought back so many memories. I thought about my uncle from Russia, who introduced me to music—he’d gather us all together and play for us all day. To me, he was like a superhero.

Now, I’m back at work, stuck in the same old routine, but I can’t shake the feeling of being overwhelmed. My heart feels heavy, and I find myself wishing I could go back to those simpler times.

It’s hard to look at life the same way again, even though I know I should be happy. Is it normal to feel this way?

 

BigData, Cloud and Internet of Things

The Internet of Things.
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The next generation Technology that will change the world how we perceive today. There will be a dramatic changes on every thing we do.
Machine to Machine communication is the reality of the next Information Technology era. Major challenges expected to the Internet, Network, Data Service Providers due to generation of trillions of data in a day through sensors to Fog to the Cloud. BigData is the only solution to managing these unstructured datas. Furthermore, the inception of IPV6 and 6LoWPAN can tell us how many devices can have individual IP Addresses and they can be communicated publicly as well. The numbers is more than number of atoms that exist on earth.
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Imagine the unimaginables without any boundry because unimaginary things are going to happen soon. BigData , Cloud and Internet of things are coming together so better be prepared to have basic programming, networking, security knowledge. Because lot of manual jobs are going to be replaced by automation (M2M)
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For Example: The Rise of Cryptocurrencies, it is trying to Remove Bank and Financial Institution that works as an agent in between customer and service providers. The huge threat to Bank and Financial institution if they don’t update themselves in respect to the digitization. Likewise, in health sector, transports, aviation, agriculture, industries and so on.
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The advancement now is unstoppable. I repeat ...... The technological advancement now is unstoppable  ...... Equip yourself to fit in.

What do you want to become in life?

Some Incident,


They asked me to write down on what I wanted to become in life. I wrote down "HAPPY".

They told me I didn't understand the question, I told them they didn't understand life.

Life is a Journey.

 Life is a journey. We’re all going somewhere.

Life feels good when you’re happy, healthy and whole…when things are going well and you’re at the top of your game.

But life also brings disappointments and pain. It could be a marriage that didn’t work out, the loss of a loved one, or failing to live up to your own expectations.

We spend our days pursuing “perfection”—in work, in body and in life. We get caught up in becoming the best version of ourselves.
But, at the end of the day, we weren’t made to be perfect. We were made to be free.

Free from the hurts and the pain of our past. Free from the hits we’ve taken in life. Free from the bullies that pushed us into the places we never thought, nor wanted to be.

We all struggle to find light in those dark places.

The question is: how do we find it?

And even when we figure it out and get the life we want, you have to know it doesn’t last coerced

Are you safe in the Internet ?

How often do you log onto the internet?  Daily? Several times per day? 

And how many of those times do you consider how your actions might impact your own safety and that of your family? How often do you think about being safe online?

You may not give it much thought as you go about your daily tasks, but it's time to start!

As parents, we put our children to bed each night and promise to watch over them.  We lock our doors, close the windows and ensure our home is a safe environment for our families.  Unfortunately while we're locking up physically, we forget about the very real threats that enter our lives via our own internet connection.  Sometimes those threats spam you, sometimes they just annoy you and, unfortunately, sometimes they do worse.  The increase in popularity of social networking, coupled with our increasing desire to share, connect and gain visibility is making it even easier for unsavory people to gain access to our personal lives and that of our families.

A Few Statistics

o   91% of online adults use social media regularly
o   69% of teens have their own computer
o   73% of teens are on a social networking site
o   There are more devices connected to the Internet than there are people on the Earth

Scary Statistics

o   1/3 of kids online have been contacted by a stranger and half of these were inappropriate contact
o   75% of youth who received an online sexual solicitation did not tell a parent
o   81% of parents of online youth say that kids aren't careful enough when giving out information
o   25% of teens have had an experience online that led to a face-to-face confrontation
o   From 2007-2009 MySpace deleted 90,000 accounts because they were created by registered sex offenders
o   4,000,000 children are posting content to the web everyday

Even Scarier Statistics

o   In 26 - 50% of online sex crimes against minors, offenders disseminated information and/or pictures of the victim through the victim's personal social networking site.
o   15% of Americans have never checked their social networking privacy and security account settings
o    Of the active adult users of Facebook, 66% reported they did not know privacy controls existed on Facebook and/or they did not know how to use the privacy controls.
o    24% of Americans say they are not at all confident in their ability to use privacy settings.
o    Only 18% of parents with children under 10 on Facebook are actually "friends" with their child on the site.
o    Only 62% of parents of teens ages 13-14 are "friends" with their child on Facebook.
o    Only 10% of parents of children aged 10 and under had frank talks about appropriate online behavior and threats.
o    30% of 7-12 year olds and 11% of 13-16 year olds say no one has spoken to them about staying safe online
o   76% of parents don't have rules about what their kids can do on the computer
o    72% of teens have a social networking profile and nearly half (47%) have a public profile viewable by ANYONE!
o    Teens often include the following information on their social networking profiles:
·         Real age (50%)
·         Photos of themselves (62%)
·         City they live in (41%)
·         School name/location (45%)
·         Videos of friends (16%)
·         Videos of themselves (14%)
·         Their cell phone number (14%)
·         Places where they typically go (9%)
o   26% of teens know someone something bad has happened to because of information or photos posted online.

Potential Dangers

1.      Strangers gain access to your family's private information

a.       Home address
b.      Phone number
c.       School information
d.      Family location
e.      Other personal information that can help identify you or your family offline

2.      Phishing scams
3.      Spammers gain access to your email or messaging system & send viruses in the form of an email from you
4.      Stalking or unwanted attention from strangers
5.      Identity theft
6.      Offline theft due to knowledge of homeowner's whereabouts
7.      Discrimination based on personal views and beliefs
8.      Exposure to bullying, hate or other negative materials
9.      Exposure to inappropriate content for minors
10.  Termination of employment due to inadvertently leaking sensitive work information or negativity towards an employer
11.  Encouraging negative behaviors by providing easy and frequent access to negativity and poor behavior from others along with a sense of anonymity

What To Do About It!

1.      Limit who can see what you post
2.      Limit what you post
3.      Don't create passwords that are common -- "Someone found out my Facebook password. GREAT! Now I have to change my dog's name!"
4.      Don't click on every funny or intriguing link you see
5.      Don't vent about your job, a friend, co-worker or boss online, EVER!
6.      If a friend sends you something that is out of character for them, don't open it! Contact them separately and ask if the message was from them. Their account may have been hacked!
7.      Be respectful of other's photos and personal information.  Don't share anything you don't have permission to share.

8.      Be aware of what you've done and posted online. Don't fall for messages that say "Ha Ha, did you really do this? (link)".  It's a virus!
9.      Review your personal profile. Don't share personal information even within the confines of your personal and private profile (year of birth, address, phone number, etc.)
10.  Don't allow children in your home to use social media unmonitored
11.  Talk to family members about online safety (this includes young and older family members)
12.  Know EVERY ONE of your child's friends online and ensure they've personally met everyone they have friended.
13.  Set ground rules for online safety the same as you would offline.  Remember Stranger Danger?
14.  Run regular virus scans on your home computers. A few good programs include:

a.      Symantec
b.      Norton
c.      McAfee
d.      Kapersky
e.      AVG

15.  Review the privacy settings on each of your social and sharing platforms
16.  If you are sharing pictures of children online, consider a private Flickr group that allows you to invite only specific viewers via email. Other sites specifically intended for photo sharing may also be good options. Just remember to check the privacy settings so you know who you are sharing with and turn off the geo-location settings so others can't see where photos you've uploaded directly from your phone were taken.

Social media and other online platforms offer wonderful opportunities to connect with friends and family.  They are a necessity for marketing your business and offer unbelievable opportunities when used correctly!  Just remember, you can't take it back!  Once you've published something online, it is available to other people and often search engines.  You can delete it from your own sight but you can never retract it!  Individuals and businesses alike have come face to face with this very hard reality.  You've lost control of your voice and often your own personal photos and information.  A careless comment, a thoughtless moment or an innocent photo can quickly turn into a nightmare for you! 

Take a moment to take your own safety and reputation seriously. Understand who may be looking at what you post online and take the extra time to determine if you really want to share your personal thoughts, views and photos as part of a a permanent record.  If you wouldn't want to see it in the newspaper headlines tomorrow then reconsider posting it online today.

Do you have concerns about being safe online?  Share your questions, concerns and the solutions you've come up with to protect your own privacy in a world where sharing rules!

Tribute to my Elder Father

Tribute to my Elder Father

Name : Dilli Kumar Hyoju
Cause of Death = Brain Stroke
Date = 2016 18th of May
Age = 96

Words cannot express the shock I had on hearing the news about your sudden demise. It is difficult to believe but yet to come to the reality , everyone of us has to cross this phenomenon one day. The only difference is time.

Thanks to a bit that we talked a little while we visited the home. To talk about his character, he was strong resilent and positive person, easy to handle even at his age of ninety six. Having living with diabetes for 50 years he was very disciplined in terms of eating habits and medications. He never ever complained but cautiously accepted whatever came.

We were planing for his 100 years but then his younger brother ( my father ) pass away. That was 3 months ago. I could see his tears and saying as wishper " My younger brother - The legendry has expired . The end is near for me too. No one can fight the end and it is universal truth."

In the name of god I would like to pray both souls rest in peace. Now it is the time for the next generation to lead.
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POEM 

Good Bye My Fathers.

1. Bishnu Kumar Hyoju 91 = 2016 Feb 9
2. Dilli Kumar Hyoju  96 = 2016 May 18

Goodbye I have to say
One for a  few months ago on a cold winter day
Other for this day in the month of may

I’ll remember the good times and try not to be sad
But saying goodbye to fathers still hurts so bad

We miss you both more then we can express
Our love for you will never grow less

We keep trying to imagine how we will go on
We realize tomorrow is another dawn

We know you’re in heaven above
Looking down on us with all your love

Only to whisper in our ear
Remember that we'll never stopped loving you dear

We’ll always remember the good times we had
Remember the men, our wonderful Dads

We’ll remember you each and every day
And if We need to talk to you, We’ll just sit down and pray

One day we’ll be together again
To talk about all the places we been

Until the time We’ll always treasure
Having you for a Dad was such a great pleasure.

REST IN PEACE.

You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.

The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you. But the world is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. The ones who love you: they are your people.

Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince people who aren’t your people that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won’t buy what you are selling. Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.

Politely wave them along and you move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognize and appreciate your gifts, who you are.

Be who you are. You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.